It sounds like you're really struggling with these expectations you have for yourself. Sex is supposed to be fun, after all. And the great news about that is that changing our attitudes and ideas is something we have way more ability to do than changing how our bodies work. Plenty of people or the media also often present sex as being about intercourse alone or mostly, when in reality, people with satisfying sex lives they enjoy rarely are just having intercourse. But ejaculating quickly, in itself, is not necessarily a sign of a problem. The average time it takes someone with a penis to ejaculate once vaginal intercourse starts is just shy of around six minutes. Pleasing a partner is much more likely to be about other things -- like how creative, responsive and communicative you are, and how much you don't just focus on intercourse, really.
I focus on my breathing personally, and try to drown out the moans by focusing my eyes elsewhere.
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Go into encounters with an open mind, and communicate with your partners. Skip to main content. And for most women, your concerns about not pleasing them just because of this are displaced. And the great news about that is that changing our attitudes and ideas is something we have way more ability to do than changing how our bodies work. Whats the point of banging a bish if you cant get into it? Things are still going strong emotionally and we love each other. Originally Posted by ComradePhelix.